Real Love in Real Life - PART 2
May 14-15, 2016 • Chip Ingram
在現實生活中真正的愛 –第二部分
5月14-15日， 2016
1. We all have legitimate needs and longings that only
REAL love can fulfill.
我們都有唯獨真愛才能圓滿的合理需要與渴望。
2. God originally designed parents, family, friends, and
spouses to be the major tools in His hands to meet
those needs and longings.
上帝從初始就設計了父母、家庭、朋友、和配偶
作為祂手中重要的工具來滿足這些需要與渴望。
3. Real Love is...
Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never
boastful or proud,
never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand its
own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges
and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong.
It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth
wins out.
If you love someone, you will be loyal to him no matter what
the cost. You will always believe in him, always expect the
best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
愛是恆久忍耐，又有恩慈 ；愛是不嫉妒；愛是不自誇，不張狂 ，
不做害羞的事，不求自己的益處，不輕易發怒，不計算人的惡 ，
不喜歡不義，只喜歡真理；
凡事包容，凡事相信，
凡事盼望，凡事忍耐。
凡事盼望，凡事忍耐。
哥林多前書 13:4-7
4. If we all long to be loved, and want to be loving;
why is REAL love so hard to find?
如果我們渴望被愛，也想要去愛人；
為什麼真愛如此難尋？
4 Barriers to Love
四個愛的障礙
1. Spiritual Barriers = Sin, Shame, Selfishness
精神上的障礙 ＝ 罪、羞恥、自私
Genesis 3
• Differences - Originally designed to compliment
and complete one another; have become sources of
friction, confusion, and competition.
不同—原本設計來彼此彌補和彼此成全；
卻變成摩擦、困惑、和競爭的源頭。
• Sharing - Has turned to shame.
分享－轉為羞恥。
• Givers - Have become takers and manipulators.
給予的人－變成索取的人和支配的人。
• Builders - Have become blamers.
建造的人－變成指責的人。
• Openness - Has given way to hiding.
公開－讓路給躲藏。
The Answer = SALVATION - 2 Corinthians 5:14-17
Resources: The Daily Walk Bible
The Miracle of Life Change by Chip Ingram
答案＝救恩－歌林多後書 5:14-17
資料來源：The Daily Walk Bible
生命改變的奇蹟by Chip Ingram
2. Psychological Barriers = Personality Differences
Psalm 139:13-15
心裡的障礙 ＝ 不同的個性
詩篇139:13-15
• Introvert v. Extrovert
內向的 和 外向的
• Assertive v. Easy Going
強勢的 和 隨和的
• Factual v. Abstract
事實的 和 抽象的
• Systematic v. Spontaneous
系統的 和 隨興的
The Answer = UNDERSTANDING - Colossians 3:12-14
Resources: The Intimacy Factor by David & Jan Stoops
Myers Briggs, DISC Assessment, StrengthsFinder
答案＝理解的－哥羅西書 3:12-14
資料來源：The Intimacy Factor by David & Jan Stoops
Myers Briggs, DISC Assessment, StrengthsFinder
3. Gender Barriers = Male/Female Differences
1 Peter 3
性別障礙 ＝ 男性／女性的不同
彼得前書3
MALES TEND TO BE...
男性傾向於…
• More achievement focused
更專注於成就
• More theoretical and
generalist
更理論性與一般性
• More information oriented
in communication
在溝通上更資訊導向
• More action oriented
更行動導向
• More facts oriented
更事實導向
• More goal oriented
更目標導向
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FEMALES TEND TO BE...
女性傾向於…
• More relationally focused
更專注於關係方面
• More specific and detail
Oriented
更精確與細節導向
• More emotion oriented in
communication
溝通上更情緒導向
• More verbal oriented
更言語導向
• More intuitively oriented
更直覺導向
• More supportive and
nurturing oriented
更鼓勵與關懷導向
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Above taken from “To Understand Each Other” by Dr. Paul Tournier
以上資料來自“彼此理解” by Dr. Paul Tournier
The Answer = APPRECIATION - 1 Peter 3:7-8
Resources: Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus by John Gray
His Need, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr.
答案＝感謝－彼得前書 3:7-8
資料來源：”男人來自火星，女人來自金星” 作者 約翰．葛瑞
“他需她要” 作者小威勒．哈里
4. Historical Barriers = “Our Baggage” From the Past
1 Corinthians 6:9-11
歷史的障礙 ＝ 來自過往的 ”我們的包袱”
歌林多前書 6:9-11
• Family Upbringing
家庭教養
• Traumatic Events
創傷事件
• False Beliefs / “Games We Play”
錯誤的信念／＂我們玩的把戲＂
• Rejection and Past Relationships
遭受拒絕和過去的關係
The Answer = KNOWLEDGE - Proverbs 20:5
Resources: The Search for Significance by Robert S. McGee
Telling Yourself the Truth by William Backus
答案＝知識－箴言 20:5
Your Action Plan to Break Through the Love Barriers
你的行動計劃來突破愛的障礙
1. RECEIVE God’s love!
接受上帝的愛！
“You can’t impart what you don’t possess.”
Howard Hendricks
＂你無法給予你沒擁有的東西＂
哈伍德 韓瑞克
2. PICK one relationship to focus on this week.
在本周選擇一個關係來關注。
3. IDENTIFY their primary Love Language.
Taken from The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
辨識他們的主要愛的語言
• Quality Time? 相處時間？
• Words of Affirmation? 肯定的話？
• Gifts? 會心禮物？
• Acts of Service? 愛的服事？
• Physical Touch? 親密接觸？
4. CHOOSE to love them in that way every day for
the next 7 days regardless of how they respond.
在接下來七日當中的每一天
選擇用那種方式去愛他們
無論他們如何回應。
Summary 結語
• Real love requires supernatural POWER.
真愛要求超自然的能力
• Real love is HARD WORK.
真愛是困難的工作
• Real love is a CHOICE not a FEELING.
真愛是一種選擇不是一種感覺
• Real love is your greatest NEED and greatest
REWARD.
真愛是你最大的需求和最大的回報
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