Why We Fight With Those We Love
Real Love in Real Life – Part 7
June 18-19, 2016 • Chip Ingram
我們為何和我們愛的人起爭執
現實生活中的真愛 – 第7部分
6月18-19日，2016年 •英格倫牧師
Introduction: Piercing Words – Wounded Lives
簡介：尖酸刻薄的言詞 - 受傷的生命
I. The _____ cause of interpersonal conflicts is our consuming passion for ______ ______________________.
I. 人際衝突的_____原因是我們為______ ______________________的熱情。
What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don’t
they come from the evil desires at war within you? You want
what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are
jealous of what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight
and wage war to take it away from them. Yet you don’t have
what you want because you don’t ask God for it. And even
when you ask, you don’t get it because your motives are all
wrong-you want only what will give you pleasure.
James 4:1-3 NLT
1你們中間的爭執和打鬥是從哪裡來的呢？不是從你們肢體中好鬥的私慾來的嗎？2你們放縱貪慾，如果得不到，就殺人；你們嫉妒，如果一無所得，就打鬥爭執。你們得不到，因為你們不求；3你們求也得不到，因為你們的動機不良，要把所得的耗費在你們的私慾上。
雅各書 四章1-3節
• Our Problem =
• 我們的問題 =
• The Symptoms =
• 症狀 =
• Our Strategy =
• 我們的策略 =
• The Results =
• 結果 =
II. God’s Diagnosis: Our constant quarrels reveal...
II. 神的診斷：我們不斷的爭吵透露出...
• We’ve believed a lie.
• 我們相信一個謊言。
• We’ve betrayed a trust.
• 我們背叛一份信任。
• We’ve become an enemy.
• 我們成為一位敵人。
You adulterers! Don’t you realize that friendship with the
world makes you an enemy of God? I say it again: If you want
to be a friend of the world, you make yourself an enemy of
God. Do you think the Scriptures have no meaning? They say
that God is passionate that the spirit he has placed within us
should be faithful to him.And he gives grace generously. As
the Scriptures say,
“God opposes the proud
but gives grace to the humble.”
James 4:4-6 NLT
4淫亂的人哪，你們不知道與世俗為友，就是與 神為敵嗎？所以與世俗為友的，就成了 神的仇敵。5聖經說：“ 神愛他那安置在我們裡面的靈，愛到嫉妒的地步”，你們想這話是徒然的嗎？6但 神所賜的恩更大；所以聖經上說：
“ 神抵擋驕傲的人，
賜恩給謙卑的人。”
雅各書 四章4-6節
III. God’s Prescription: __________ ______________
and God will heal your relationships.
III. 神的處方: __________ ______________，
神就會醫治你的人際關係。
So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will
flee from you. Come close to God, and God will come close to
you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your
loyalty is divided between God and the world. Let there be tears
for what you have done. Let there be sorrow and deep grief. Let
there be sadness instead of laughter, and gloom instead of joy.
Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up in
honor.
James 4:7-10 NLT
7你們應當順服 神，抵擋魔鬼，魔鬼就逃避你們。8你們應當親近 神， 神就親近你們。罪人啊，要潔淨你們的手；三心兩意的人哪，要清潔你們的心。9你們要愁苦、悲哀、哭泣，把歡笑變為傷痛，把快樂變為憂愁。10你們務要在主面前謙卑，他就使你們高升。
雅各書 四章7-10節
Steps To Diffuse Conflict
分散衝突的步驟
1. _____________________________________
“Submit yourselves therefore to God...” v7a
1. _____________________________________
“順服 神...” 第7a節
2. ______________________________________
“Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” v7b
2. ______________________________________
“抵擋魔鬼，魔鬼就逃避你們。” 第7b節
3._______________________________________
“Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.” v8
3._______________________________________
“你們應當親近 神， 神就親近你們。” 第8節
4._______________________________________
“Cleanse your hands...purify your hearts...” v8b
4._______________________________________
“要潔淨你們的手...要清潔你們的心...” 第8b節
IV. God’s Promise For The Humble is...
IV. 神給謙卑人的應許是...
He will ___________ you up. v10
“他就使你們___________升” 第10節
Personal Application and Discussion Questions
個人應用和問題討論
1. What is the core of our conflicts with other people? Briefly
define “hedonism” in your own words.
1. 什麼是我們與其他人發生衝突的核心原因？簡要地
用自己的話來定義“享樂主義”。
2. Why is hedonism a lie? How are we influenced to
unconsciously “buy into” its philosophy daily?
2. 為什麼享樂主義是一個謊言？我們是如何每天在不知不覺中被享樂主義所影響？
3. How does God view our strategies to gratify ourselves
apart from Him?
3. 神如何看待我們為了滿足私慾而遠離神的策略？
4. What is the solution to interpersonal conflict? What
specifically is involved in “humbling ourselves” before God
and others?
4. 什麼是化解人際衝突的解藥？什麼是在神和別人面前“謙卑我們自己”所需的要件？
5. Is there a specific relationship that needs attention in
your life? What would humbling yourself look like in this
situation?
5. 在您生命中，是否有一層特定關係需要關注？謙卑您自己能如何改變這層特定關係？
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Five Lies That Ruin Relationships is also available in the Venture bookstore.
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